1. It is as if there is a ratio that needs to be determined before any decisions are made. The fear of being hurt over the happiness one has. When you reflect on it all, and the LAST thing you think about is what could go wrong, and really, the thought is something you have personally and nothing has been wrong, then the ratio is right. 2. Fuck the past. Yeah, it can define who you are, but who you are is living here and now. If there is one thing I have learned watching INTERVENTION, it is that the way you react to what happens to you is what truly makes you you.
3. Take control. You control everything in your life. Everything you say, feel, or do is in YOUR hands. You feel helpless and defenseless when you forget this.
4. Let your guard down, and feel that searing pain of awkwardness and insecurity again. If they still show interest after seeing you stutter and saying absurd things like "I'll find you on facebook", he's totally worth it. And if he doesn't fuck him, he's not worth your fretting anyways.
5. Be considerate. Compromise is good as long as you don't surrender what you are passionate about.
6. Honesty IS the best policy.
7. Spend time in the kitchen. Cooking is so therapeutic. It also puts me at ease to know EXACTLY what I am consuming.
8. Listen. If you catch your self doing most of the talking, start asking questions.
9. Remember everything you learned in Kindergarten. Manners, sharing, patience and values are just as important now as they were then.
Now, there comes a time where I shut the fuck up and take the risk and just go for it.
Wish me luck.
